Leesa Truesdell Shares Her Five Year Update After Living Abroad

Leesa Truesdell Shares Her Five Year Update After Living Abroad


As August 2021 approaches and the world slowly opens again, I smile about the happy memories leading up to the moments before, during, and while living abroad in Madrid, Spain. After living abroad for a year, I began working and then didn’t stop. Then, the pandemic approached while I was moving to start the next phase of my life in a new city. The world feels different now and might remain this way for quite some time. What we must not forget is that life will always have ups and downs. It is in those moments of uncertainty that we truly understand our character. Our most trying times are sometimes the best, at least for me they are. I’ve thought a lot as my life has changed drastically over these last five years and this is what I would like to highlight.  

How do professionals who want to travel, work, study and/or move abroad handle a change? Here are the first five answers that came to mind after living abroad. There has been one for each year since August of 2016. 

Year One: 2016-2017 

My Arrival — Go With the Flow Because Nothing Feels Normal

I arrived in Spain on a sultry August day. I didn’t expect things to be like the USA. However, I also did not feel equipped to understand how different the culture and lifestyle is from the American way of life. It’s the complete, total opposite. Americans appreciate a more fast-paced way of life and thinking (especially the younger generation). We have three meals a day, generally. The traditional family eats dinner at night. It’s a bigger meal than lunch. In Spain, it felt like everything was “traditional.” Let’s face it, they’re the land that conquered many others. So, in reality, their way of life and thinking is very conventional in a sense. It’s family-driven and lunch is at 2 PM. It’s the largest meal of the day, and don’t forget your siesta. I felt so turned around but eventually managed to accept the things I couldn’t control and embrace them. 

Year Two: 2017-2018 

The Passing of Tata and Life After Living Abroad

The Resilience Abroad series started when I lived in Madrid. While I was grieving about the loss of Tata, I was also reflecting on what she meant to me and how her living memory would never be forgotten. At the time, I was in a foreign place. I didn’t know it back then, but I was living the life I was supposed to. I was grieving abroad and blessed with time to get to know myself better for the latter half of what was to come that year. 

Later that November, I moved back to my college hometown and began work in a field that was new to me. In this role, I worked around the clock either in my mind or physically at work. It was the job where I took home the issues that went unresolved. I thought about them all the time when not working. Hence, around the clock.  I didn’t realize this while it was happening, but not only was I still grieving, I also experienced the opposite again.

Reverse Culture Shock

I was re-learning the American way of life but now it felt more intense because I had just experienced living abroad during my first real experience with death. While I had been resilient, I hadn’t learned about reverse culture shock. It’s real and somehow I was too busy to see the signs. I had put myself in a situation where I ignored signs and tried to move on the best way I knew how. This job enabled me to focus on work at the expense of these larger issues in my life. 

Unfortunately, I focused too much on the new work to understand the complexity of reverse culture shock. I couldn’t explain the reverse of what was happening to me and didn’t know it at the time. Instead, I tried my best to adapt to a new job in a location that was nowhere near what it resembled before I left for Madrid. The experience changed me. Moving back to a city I once knew and outgrew wasn’t a recipe for success. Live and learn. 

Year Three: 2018-2019 

Complacency is Not OK. Speak Up and Do Your Best.

I knew I was trying my best not to downsize the person I had become and the person I wanted to be. Living in the same place again while losing who I was made me feel complacent. One thing I knew for sure was that my core principles and integrity would never be compromised. I was tested on multiple occasions. Sometimes, when you’re given tests in life, you realize later on that passing might not be feasible. If the test is rigged from the beginning and you are answering the questions correctly, then there might be something else going on. 

Pay to play happens frequently in the states. It’s unfortunate. I spoke up about this repeated inadequacy that I was seeing and instead of getting a thank you, I got a no thank you. Sometimes, life doesn’t respond the way we expect when we follow the moral code we’ve had since elementary school. In our formative years, we’re taught “stranger danger,” D.A.R.E., and how to be a good person. The end result was a tough concept for me to wrap my head around. I lead with principle and teach others to be honest and respectful. Speaking up will always be the best decision I ever make, no matter the consequences. 

Year Four: 2019- 2020 

Accept the Things you Cannot Change and Move on as Quickly as Possible. Life is Calling. Pick up the Phone. 

What I’ve learned is that the past is the past and you can’t change it. You can be bitter and resent something that you can’t change or you can move on and perhaps be a positive influence. It’s easier said than done. You get scars, and the record plays over and over in your mind on how you could have fixed it. But, in time, you learn after one full record or two that it’s time to let go and live for now. 

The transition from 2019 to 2020 was a tough year. The pandemic didn’t make it any easier, but Dreams Abroad did. I focused my energy on all of the positive things I saw in the people who made my life better through this effort. This included the last trip I took before the pandemic. This was the most important trip of my life, and the one I kept putting off because I didn’t have the time allotted. This life event was the most meaningful and therapeutic — the one I needed to take the next step in my life. Don’t wait too long — when life is calling — pick up the phone.

Dreams Abroad became the uplifting resource I needed when others were contributing each week. Thank you to those of you who are reading, your articles not only assisted our community, but they spoke to me too. 

Year Five: 2020-2021 

Embrace Change

I moved to Washington, DC, and learned that the program I moved for wasn’t exactly the best fit. Maybe it would have been had the instruction and research been face-to-face but, hey, it’s OK to say no and move onto the next chapter. If what you thought isn’t serving you, move on as quickly as you can. Many of us can say that the pandemic has closed doors and opened new ones. Embrace it. I’ve learned that what will be will be. Sometimes things are within our control and they aren’t. Recognize the two and embrace change. Remember to always keep the go-with-the-flow mindset if at all possible. We’re halfway through 2021 and things are opening up again. We can do this. 

Wrap Up

Dreams Abroad has become something more than just a website. The last five years after living abroad have been a way for me to meet like-minded, talented individuals of all ages, backgrounds, and principled belief systems. Each person that I have interacted with has touched my life. For that, I feel forever grateful. Nothing can ever replace the loss of a loved one. It’s been one of the hardest things in my life. There is no manual on how to handle your situation. 

One thing I know for certain is that working with this tight-knit group has given me new memories. I feel so very blessed to have found the lives of so many fulfilling and achieving their dreams. It makes my heart smile and soul feel more alive than ever before. This is what makes a good day, good. This is why we are still here after all of this time. 

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34 thoughts on “Leesa Truesdell Shares Her Five Year Update After Living Abroad

  1. I really enjoyed reading this post and learning about your journey! An exercise like this really helps you to see what’s shaped you over the last few years and helps you take the next steps. I love what you said – “when life is calling – pick up the phone”.

    1. It’s been an interesting path so far, Elise. Sometimes it’s not a question of where you turn in life. Walking with purpose can be more important.

  2. Brace yourself for the next five years, as life will come at you harder and faster. Enjoy the ride!

    1. I’m all buckled up, Ed. We never know what life can throw at us. But I always like to be as prepared as possible.

    1. What will be will be, Adam. We have some interesting articles coming out in August. Keep an eye for our upcoming features.

  3. I have always wanted to live abroad. Everyone that I know that has done it has had incredible adventures.

  4. That is such an amazing read. Your story is the perfect example of travel can really change you. I loved reading this.

    1. You’re right, Leanne, travel can be a transformative experience. However, I wasn’t only visiting Madrid but living there. Such a prolonged stay left a lasting impression. Thank you for reading my article.

  5. You know, I’ve traveled for years, and I’ve never heard of reverse culture shock before. It’s a very interesting concept. I can see losing your connection with your home country after being gone for so long.

    1. Reverse culture shock is a very powerful feeling, Kuntala. We have covered the phenomenon in various articles. It’s something that affects people in quite a severe fashion when returning to their home country.

  6. I have never thought of reverse culture shock. It makes total sense, though! After living in another country for so long and getting used to that way of life, of course it would be a shock to go back to the way things used to be.

  7. I love your positivity. Having that huge sudden change sounds really tough. Glad you nailed it.

  8. I had never felt that way before. Maybe if I lived too long in another country, I would. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  9. Our experience is the best teacher, so they say. You have a fruitful yet challenging life from where you are now. Continue to survive and thrive.

  10. It was wonderful reading your story, and I can relate to the part where you have to learn a new culture (mine from the Philippines to Australian ways). One thing is sure… change is the constant, and we have to adapt, and keep on moving.

  11. Great interview! I learned a lot with her 5 years experience living abroad. Hope to read more of these.

  12. Culture shock is such a weird feeling. I have not traveled abroad but just in my own country I have experienced this.

  13. I can relate about the culture shock as well as accepting what you can’t change. I have learnt to live intentionally regardless

  14. I moved here to the U.S. ten years ago, and I agree, accept the things you cannot change and move on quickly. I did that a few years ago and life has been so much happier since then.

  15. I enjoyed reading your story. Your challenges, struggles & emotions seem familiar to me. I love how you embraced the changes and dealt with all that life has thrown at you. You should be super proud of your journey which led you to create such a lovely community.

    1. We clearly have a lot in common, Anna. Dreams Abroad has become my life. I’m really touched that you appreciate its value.

  16. Yes, it’s amazing how different other cultures and places can be – especially when you are living there for a long time. Good to see you move on quickly from situations that don’t suit you.

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